Sometimes Life Takes Over 008
We all have a life outside of music, whether we do it professionally or just for a hobby. Sometimes letting that life take priority is easier said than done. I personally know a lot of people who have said they’ve ‘lost relationships’ or in extreme cases ‘lost families’ because of either their career in music or the musical career they’re trying to peruse. I’ve never felt this to always be necessary.
Often people outside of the industry don’t fully understand our lifestyle and how we sometime just need to do whatever it takes, so my first piece of advice is making this clear with the people around you. Let them know that times may sometimes get tough, you might be away from home more and your hours are going to be somewhat anti-social, after all honesty, is the best policy and this can be key to keeping the people close to you there.
With this in mind, sometimes we need to prioritise other people in life over our life in music. An example of this could be turning down a gig because your partner is going through a tough time. Sometimes you just have to do the right thing and its important never to forget that. Yes, you might miss out on a bit of money, but… and this is a big but, in my personal experience, something will usually crop up to replenish the money you missed out on making. Win win, you’ve kept a healthy relationship and made money.
I’m not personally a great believer in karma or fate, however from experience, most of the time because of whatever reason, passing up a gig because you just needed to do the right thing often means you find work in the near future you never even had booked, this might be because subconsciously you’re looking harder for more work… I don’t know. The point is, 90% of the time you end up better off.